In 2018, the world was captivated by the heartbreaking journey of an orca named Tahlequah, who carried her deceased calf for 17 days, traveling more than 1,000 miles in what researchers described as an unparalleled display of grief. Recently, Tahlequah was spotted again, carrying another deceased calf. Researchers observed her behavior on Christmas Eve and New Year’s Day, noting she draped the calf across her snout or head, diving to retrieve it when it sank. The calf had lived only a handful of days. Experts, including Brad Hanson of NOAA and Joe Gaydos from the University of California, Davis, believe this behavior reflects profound mourning, akin to that seen in other socially cohesive animals such as primates and dolphins. This extraordinary act underscored a profound truth: animals experience loss and grieve, much like humans. Observations like these, paired with insights from veterinary professionals, reveal the depth and complexity of animal emotions.
In her 20 years experience, Dr. Elizabeth Benson, veterinarian and founder of Paws into Grace, has witnessed numerous examples of grief among pets, especially in bonded pairs. “I have seen firsthand pets grieving another dog or cat after passing,” she shares. “There may be obvious signs of sadness described by owners, such as lethargy, decreased appetite, or even withdrawal from the family.”
The grieving process varies significantly between animals. Dr. Benson explains, “Bonds vary between pets, and some are more profoundly affected. Initially, a dog or cat may not seem to react after another pet’s passing, but there may be isolation or even extreme behavior changes, such as separation anxiety. These reactions may develop days later.”
In wildlife, the emotional expressions of loss can be even more pronounced. Tahlequah’s story is just one of many instances where researchers have observed animals mourning. Elephants are known to linger around the bones of deceased herd members, and certain bird species have been seen engaging in behaviors that resemble funerals.
For domestic pets, grief often manifests in ways that can be challenging for owners to navigate. Dr. Benson advises allowing a surviving pet to say goodbye to aid in their understanding and healing. “Some techniques that help include letting a pet say goodbye or even being present during the euthanasia process,” she says. “This does not seem to be traumatic but may help with closure and healing.”
She also emphasizes the importance of extra love and attention during this time. “Distraction and establishing a new routine can help pets cope,” Dr. Benson suggests. “Owners may feel helpless, but small steps like these can make a significant difference.”
The connection between animals and grief underscores the depth of their emotional lives, which are often underestimated. As we better understand these emotions, it not only strengthens our bond with them but also reminds us of our shared experience of loss and love.
Paws into Grace remains committed to supporting pet owners through these challenging moments, providing compassionate end of life care and guidance during times of pet loss. By recognizing and respecting the emotional needs of pets, we honor the deep bonds they share with both humans and their animal companions.
